In all the excitement of this weekend’s embarrassment of riches, I forgot to mention that I had a date Saturday afternoon. Like, a real, honest-to-goodness date. Unfortunately…that’s really all there is to say about. The guy was nice enough (we met through Match) but failed to knock my socks off. Perhaps it’s because of his resemblence to a young Ben Stein (“Bueller…Bueller?”). Or because he had bad teeth. (I’m not trying to sound judgmental here, but if your teeth are gross, I’m not going to want to kiss you, and if I don’t want to kiss you, how will we ever have a relationship?)
Either way, I’m now kind of regretting my decision to end our date on Saturday by saying, “This was fun, we should hang out again.” Especially since he called me last night, asking if I wanted to grab a beer this weekend. Mercifully I was in class and couldn’t answer when he called. Now the question is whether I should be nice, live up to my word and give him the benefit of a second date, or just cut the cord. But for that comment about seeing each other again, I would probably be composing a nicely phrased “I think we should see other people” e-mail right now, but I hate being insincere. I feel like it hurts my dating karma to lie, and that’s something I really can’t afford.
But how do you end a date ambiguously, without committing to a second date, but without indicating that what just transpired was the most anticlimactic 90 minutes of your life? It’s far easier to deal with when a date falls to one extreme or the other – if it’s really good, I’m already mentally searching my calendar for the next time we can get together; if it’s bad, I’m really not too worried about hurting your feelings, I’m just pissed for wasting my time. But what about when a date is just ok? What’s the best way to react when you’re about to part ways for your cars, and your date is staring you down, as if the next words out of your mouth mean the difference between life and death? Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comments. I need all the help I can get!
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